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Overcome Fear to “Win Some or Learn Some”

Today is my last day at my job, and I am taking a step into the unknown. For the last four years, I have worked at the same full time position. In my last post, I outlined the logical and emotional reasons for making a decision on what to do next with my life and career. I also explained that, if all fear was pushed aside, I would choose to follow my heart and do my freelance web design and online marketing, as well as build other business ventures.

The fearful side of my still keeps saying, are you crazy? In this economy?  What happens if you fail? How do you know you will succeed?
And of course, the truth is, I have no idea what is coming next. All that I can do is keep my mind in the right place, and put my best foot forward.

Fear and doubt have a tendency to sneak back into your mind at the most stressful and insecure times in your life, when what you really need are feelings of confidence and strength.

For me, though I still experience feelings of doubt and fear, I am now able to recognize my fear as a trigger for the fact that I am out of my comfort zone, and that this will be a good learning and growth period of my life.

The Steps You’ll Need to Overcome Fear and Doubt:

  1. Recognize the emotional trigger that caused you to feel fear, doubt, etc
  2. Accept that there are some logical reasons for the feelings
  3. Acknowledge that, though there are some reasons that you are feeling fear, there is also the strong possibility that things will go the way you want them to
  4. Accept uncertainty and the unknown as a constant part of life
  5. Think positive and be confident in your decisions
  6. Move forward with your best foot forward
  7. Mission Accomplished: Fear is Overcome

What are the Possible Outcomes of Pushing Past Your Fears?

  1. You Get What You Hoped or Even Something Better
  2. You “Fail”, but You Learn From Your Mistakes and Move On

Or, in the words of Jason Mraz: “You Win Some or Learn Some”

I’ve made my decision to give it a try. I have the ability so I am going to take a 2 month test period to see if I can truly build my businesses to support my family.

Here’s My 2 Month Plan:

  • I already have a few new and a few big projects lined up, including my other recurring work for clients.
  • I am going to re-brand my business, which is currently called AGR Web Designs, to Lead Online Marketing. This will include moving from a sole proprietor model to an LLC, a new website/branding/blog, etc strategy, marketing and better packaged offerings. I have also started to get better with software for my invoicing an estimates (I may to a post/review on those tools)
  • I may also do a bit of additional part time work during this time as I build my business
  • I will continue to build my timeline/planning templates business
  • I’m considering building another small site that focuses on wordpress and/or thesis design, as this market is really booming and I enjoy working in that area

I am afraid, but I am also very excited. And though it is a slightly uncomfortable place to be, it makes me feel more alive and happy about my career than I have been in the last 4 years.

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Making a Choice Between Entrepreneur or Corporate Life

March 11, 2010

Well, its official. I have turned in my two week notice at my current position and I am pursuing other options. We have enough of a padding to last long enough for me to sort this out. (My fear is talking there)

I’m very happy about this first decision and I have lots of options. Nonetheless, I am very much struggling with this life decision.

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Many Popular Financial Advisors Don’t Have Kids

February 4, 2010

I am curious if life is made up of Either / Or choices or if it is truly possible to have life full of ANDs. I’d like to believe it is possible to keep adding ANDs to your life, yet I know that at some point your plate gets full and you have to take things off.

So, what do I mean by and AND life versus and OR life?

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Be the Change You Want to See in the World

December 21, 2009

Gandhi knew what he was talking about. This simple, but powerful phrase has become my mantra as of late. I wake up hearing it in my head. I think about it at random times of the day. I don’t know why it popped into my head, but it rings true as a mantra for a path towards both sustainable happiness and financial freedom.

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Despite the Economic Future, I’m Still Thankful

November 26, 2009

Its everywhere you turn, on every newspaper, on countless blogs, in every book store. The drastic changes that have happened to our financial system and our economy can be pointed at many reasons including excessive debt by consumers and government, greed, separation of the wealthy and poor, and the dollar not being tied to gold back in the ’70s. Whatever the reasons, its more imperative now than ever for every person in the US to take control of their own future, to get more educated and make sure they are making active decisions, intentional decisions, not just following along the patterns of the societal norm.

It won’t necessarily be doomsday if you do not wake up as I have. However, your financial education is a key factor in ensuring the strength of your family and your future, certainly your 401k and your government aren’t anything to rely on.

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The Happiness Project and the Happiness Project Toolbox

November 18, 2009

Its amazing how the journey to financial freedom is leading me many directions towards self reflection in other areas of my life, such as how to find real happiness.

Want an excellent example of a blog / book / community site well done? Take Gretchen Rubin, a writer whose new book, The Happiness Project, will be available in January 2010. Her blog is an account of the year she spent test-driving studies and theories about how to be happier.

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Carpe Diem: Is It Possible to Seize the Day?

November 16, 2009

The best meaning that I can infer out of the phrase Carpe Diem is to stop waiting for the future, stop waiting for the bus to come and pick you up. If the bus isn’t coming, take a stand and find a way to get to your destination.

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Top 3 Barriers in My Journey Toward Financial Freedom

November 14, 2009

At what point do you say to yourself, your FUTURE is more important than the PRESENT, so allocate more TIME towards efforts that may or may not succeed, as long as they are in the right direction?

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Who Am I Writing For?

November 12, 2009

It truly does take a lot of dedication to remember to check in daily and make time every day to learn and to further your knowledge.

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Sometimes its Okay to Lose Focus

November 10, 2009

Evan Williams, the man that started Blogger and Twitter, said his largest problem with failed businesses in the past was losing focus. In fact, he said that both Blogger and Twitter were off-shoots of a business, not the business he was intending to run.

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