I am curious if life is made up of Either / Or choices or if it is truly possible to have a life full of ANDs. I’d like to believe it is possible to keep adding ANDs to your life, yet I know that at some point your plate gets full and you have to take things off.
So, what do I mean by leading an AND life versus an OR life?
Do you agree with this statement?:
In life, you can either have a fulfilling career or a great marriage or you can have children.
Or do you agree with this statement?:
In life, you can have a fulfilling career and a great marriage and you can have children.
There are only so many ANDs you can add to your list. Yet how do you know when enough is enough? Is it possible to just get more and more efficient with your time to the point where you can have all the ANDs that you want?
Here’s some of the financial top gurus family status:
Suze Orman – No Kids
Robert Kiyosaki – No Kids
David Bach – Unknown (Please let me know)
Dave Ramsey – 3 Kids
Okay. Point conveyed. Is it possible to reach any sort of financial freedom when you have the responsibilities, be it financial, time, energy, love, that you have to devote to your little ones? I’m not sure. I hope so. However, it does bother me a bit that many of the top advisers on financial education and wealth don’t have a family. Suze Orman recommends investing in your retirement before sinking too much to save for your child’s college, but that is a very difficult choice to make in my opinion. As parents, you often have the instinct to take care of your children as much as if not more than you take care of yourself.
Its difficult for me to listen to some of these gurus talk about how to get rich because I feel they are already too far removed from me and my life. Not to mention my age group. I prefer to read many of the blogs out there at the moment.
I have a little toddler and the question that has entered my mind lately is just that: can I have this AND that, and to what degree. Can I truly find balance? Right now, it seems that all that I am doing is adding to my plate, with out enough focus, and I am not taking enough away.
What do you think? Is it possible?
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